A series of online meetings are part of our daily lives now. In the meantime we miss human connection and may have to cope with demotivation, which hinders our performance. Computers are connected, but the people also need to be connected in order to create valuable human bonds. As organisers of virtual meetings we feel helpless as we lack control in these situations. They are often the consequence of mistaken beliefs and therefore a sequence of misunderstandings may demobilise our participants.